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Saturday’s Dilemma ~ Trying To Get It All Straight

gene check listI have started going through my trees with a checklist of documents I have or need for each ancestor. It has helped me to fill in a lot of blanks. When I am working on the tree, I usually just work on one line at a time. If it is the Hughes line. I will look at my dad, his dad, then his dad, etc. I don’t change the order by looking into their spouses as well. I do this after I finish the male line.  Everyone does their research in their own way and this is mine. It usually works well until I make a mistake.

 

A couple of days ago I was researching my 2x Great Grandpa George W. Hayes. As I was closing his page getting ready to go to the next Hayes in the line, I heard a loud thud and someone yelling! I told my husband it sounded like someone got hurt so we went outside. Our elderly neighbor had fallen so we helped her up and took her into her house and made sure she was okay. When I got back home, I was still a little frazzled by the incident so I thought I would just get back to filling in some missing pieces in the tree. I pulled up the tree and hit the button and then I pulled up the ancestor. When I looked at his wife’s name I was confused. It gave her name as Elizabeth Rucker. I could have sworn her name was supposed to be Sarah Rucker. When I took a second look at her husband’s name, I realized that I had hit Georges’ wife tree by mistake. When I looked at Georges’ parents his mom was listed as Sarah Rucker. If this was correct that made George and his wife, Elizabeth Coffey first cousins. So, the search was on!

 

 

 

The farther back I went the more confusing it got. It was confirmed that Sarah and Elizabeth’s father was Colby Rucker.  Sarah married John Coffey, the son of Benjamin cousin blocksCoffey. Elizabeth married Thomas Hayes whose mother was Mary “Polly” Hayes. Mary Hayes was married to Benjamin Coffey. If this isn’t confusing enough Benjamin Coffey’s brother Thomas married Elizabeth Smith. They had a daughter named Mary Coffey, who married William Coffey, who was the son of Benjamin Coffey!

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OK, my head hurts from all this inter-marrying.  I am going to spend some time looking through the many, many children of the Hayes, Rucker and Coffey lines to see how many other cousins have married. I know this isn’t really that unusual, there are probably some like this in most trees. I know I have cousins in my mothers’ line who have married. However, not this many within 3 generations!

 

So, here is my dilemma. Actually 2 of them. First, what is the best way to make a chart linking all of these cousins together to get a better view of them and their relationships with each other? Second, what do you think about me putting the “extra” relationship in my trees so future generations don’t have to do what I have done?

 

I am a professional genealogist, writer, photographer, wife, mother, and grandma. I have two books available on Amazon.com: Your Family History: Doing It Right the First Time and Planning Your Genealogy Research Trip. You can also connect with me via Facebook or Twitter.

 

 

 

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Freaky Fridays ~ A Tangled Web!

Freaked Out Letters Funny A Little Crazy Word

I realize that the farther back you can trace your family the more likely it is that there may be some freaky things that happen. Especially in early Colonial America where there weren’t thousands of people to intermingle with. I have found where I have 2 sisters who are both my 8x Great Grandmothers. They each married and had children and I descend from both lines. This is strange enough, but tonight I found something even more strange.

Jamestown 1607-map

John “Dods” Dodson immigrated to Jamestown Virginia in 1607. He married a woman named Jane and they had two sons. Jesse Dodson was born in 1623 in Jamestown, Virginia. The next year Benjamin Dodson was born. At the age of 22, Jesse married Judith Hagger on May 7, 1645. I have only found documentation for one child born to Jesse and Judith, a son named Charles Joseph born in 1649.

Benjamin married Anne Simms in 1647. They had 3 children, two sons, Peter and Francis, and a daughter named Anne born in 1651. As with most families of the time, all three families lived close to each other in the small city of Jamestown.

cousinsIn 1680 first cousins, Charles Joseph son of Jesse, and Anne, daughter of Benjamin got married. They went on to have 8 children. Their second son, Thomas is my 6x Great Grandfather. So here is the breakdown:

 

Charles and Anne are 1st cousins.

Anne is the niece and daughter-in-law of Jesse Dodson.

Charles is the nephew and son-in-law of Benjamin Dodson.

Their 8 children are 1st cousins as well as siblings.

Each of the children are both children and nieces/nephews to their parents.

There is no denying that this situation is indeed FREAKY! No matter how common it may have been in the mid-1600s.

 

I am a professional genealogist, writer, photographer, wife, mother, and grandma. I have two books available on Amazon.com: Your Family History: Doing It Right the First Time and Planning Your Genealogy Research Trip. You can also connect with me via Facebook or Twitter.

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You Can’t Make This Stuff Up ~ Freaky Friday #2

J&J picSeveral years ago, my Son-in-law Jake, asked me to research his Genealogy and I quickly gathered all the information that he knew about his family and eagerly began. His paternal ancestors came from Missouri and places on the east coast.

 

During the research, I stumbled upon a very familiar last name…. Rucker. I know that Rucker is a very common German/Dutch name and that a lot of Rucker’s immigrated to America starting as far back as 1690. I was intrigued and began to dig deeper.

Following the line backward I discovered the name, John Rucker. John had been born thecousin quote FF2 oldest child of Peter Rucker and Elizabeth (Fielding) Rucker in 1680 in England. I became so excited I could hardly contain myself. Peter Rucker born in 1661 in Germany was my 7th times Great Grandfather! That meant he was my daughter’s 8th times Great Grandfather and he was also my son-in-laws 9th Great Grandfather. My daughter and son-in-law are 1st cousins 10 times removed! Jake descended from John Rucker and my daughter, Jerusha descended from Thomas Rucker the 2nd son of Peter and Elizabeth Rucker.

Oh, the fun I have had with this. I have relentlessly teased them about being kissing cousins.

Then it hit me. Jake was my 1st cousin 9 times removed. Sorry, but this kind of creeped me out. Then I felt the heat rush through my face and it dawned on me, if he is my cousin then so are my 2 grandsons!!! What do I do now, have the boys call me Grandma Cousin? This is truly Freaky.

 

I am a professional genealogist, writer, photographer, wife, mother, and grandma. I have two books available on Amazon.com: Your Family History: Doing It Right the First Time and Planning Your Genealogy Research Trip. You can also connect with me via Facebook or Twitter.

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52 Ancestors Week 4 – Elizabeth Rucker – the Closest Ancestor to Me!

happy birthday cake choclateThis week we are supposed to write about an Ancestor who may share the same birth date (not year obviously) with ourselves. Elizabeth Rucker is the one closest to mine as she was born on January 6, 1787. I was born on January 13, sometime in the last 100 years!

Elizabeth is my paternal 3rd Great Grandmother. She was born in Wilkes County, North Carolina to Colby and Sarah (Roberts) Rucker. She was the oldest of their eight children. She married John Coffey on March 1, 1804. She and John had twelve children! In 1820 the Coffey’s moved to Grainger Tennessee. I am sad to say that this is all I know about this amazing woman.

Elizabeth Coffey

Elizabeth Coffey

George Hayes

George Hayes

I do know that her father Colby fought in the Revolutionary War and that he was held captured by the British and escaped. One of Elizabeth’s younger sisters, Sarah “Sally” Rucker married a man named Thomas Hayes on September 19, 1807. Sally and Thomas had seven children. On February 20, 1845 one of their sons George W. Hayes married Elizabeth and John Coffey’s daughter Elizabeth Coffey. That made them 1st cousins. It also makes both of these sisters my 3rd Great Grandmothers!

tapestry

Genealogy can be like a beautiful tapestry. On the top side we can see the intricate picture woven into place by the threads of many colors and varieties. However when the tapestry is turned over it reveals all of the mess on the underside. Overlapping threads, loose ends, knots and even a few mistakes are revealed.  Looking at the finished product we understand that there cannot be the beauty of the design without some of the chaos on the bottom. This is true for Genealogy!

I am a professional genealogist, writer, photographer, crafter, reader, wife, mother, and grandma. I have two books available at Amazon.com: Your Family History: Doing It Right the First Time and Planning Your Genealogy Research Trip. You can also connect with me via Facebook or Twitter.

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Don’t Tell The Kids Our Family Secret!

J&J picA couple of years ago my Son-in-law Jake, asked me to research his Genealogy and to send his Grandmother, who was 87 years old, a copy of the results. I was excited to do so and gathered all the information that he knew about the family and eagerly began.

Jake is a second generation Wyomingite. His paternal ancestors came from Missouri and places on the east coast.  His Grandfather Jack Craig was born in Missouri in 1925 and moved to Wyoming in the 1940’s. The family’s ties to Missouri go back to the early 1800’s.

Dolph and Renda Craig

Dolph and Renda Craig

Great Grandfather, Dolph Craig owned and operated a saw mill in Winona, Shannon, Missouri. He married Renda Buff and they had 5 children. In following Renda’s line back through time, 5 generations to be exact, I stumbled on a very familiar last name….Rucker. I know that Rucker is a very common German name and that a lot of Rucker’s immigrated to America starting as far back as 1690. I was intrigued and began to dig deeper.

The first mentioned Rucker named in this line was Frances Rucker born in 1761 in Amherst Virginia. She had married John Canebrake Lea in 1786. Frances was the daughter of Colonel Ambrose Rucker. Frances’ name was not the least bit familiar, but Ambrose? That one I knew I had heard before. Upon further examination I found that Ambrose was the son of John Rucker and Susannah Phillips. John had been born the oldest child of Peter Rucker and Elizabeth (Fielding) Rucker in 1680 in KissinCousinsEngland. I became so excited I could hardly contain myself. Peter Rucker born in 1661 in Germany was my 7th Great Grandfather! That meant that he was my daughters 8th Great Grandfather and he was also my son-in-laws 9th Great Grandfather. My daughter and son-in-law are 10th cousins! Jake descended from John Rucker and my daughter, Jerusha descended from Thomas Rucker the 2nd son of Peter and Elizabeth Rucker.

Oh the fun I have had with this. I have relentlessly teased them about being kissing cousins. I even told their two sons about this unique coincidence and now they have even begun to joke about it. It is amazing that one person born in Wyoming and another born in Arizona somehow meet, fall in love, get married and have children and then discover that they have a common lineage. Here’s to Genealogy (raised wine glasses clinking and hand clapping)!!

I am a professional genealogist, writer, photographer, crafter, reader, wife, mother, and grandma. I have two books available on Amazon.com: Your Family History: Doing It Right the First Time and Planning Your Genealogy Research Trip. You can also connect with me via Facebook or Twitter.

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