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Monday’s for Me #45 ~ A Different Way To Get Groceries

Growing up I never realized how lazy my mother was. My sister and I did all of the house cleaning and most of the cooking. I remember using a stool to be able to reach the clothesline. When we were younger, we had one of those wringer washers and I remember having a problem with that one. I was probably about 9 before we got an electric one.

My Dad had to do all the grocery shopping. He and I would go on Friday evening to the Lucky Store, carefully picking up everything that was on the list. I used to look around and wonder why there weren’t more men shopping. My Dad stood out like a sore thumb, pushing the cart and filling it with our next weeks bounty. I didn’t really mind it because I was away from my mother and sister, and I got to spend time alone with my Dad. We would get home, cart in all the paper bags of food, then he and I would put it away.

When we moved to Missouri, when I was 12-years-old. The tradition continued for about the first 2 months. The stores were different, the food was different, and the shopping experience was very different. We are talking about 1967, and Missouri was way more traditional than Arizona ever was. Women were actually rude to us when we would go to the grocery store. I could see my Dad’s face turn red from embarrassment when some woman would make a disparaging comment. Of course, it made me mad, even though I didn’t understand why they said the things they did. We moved from the small town (about 800 people) we originally moved to and my parents bought a house in Independence. I only remember going shopping there once.

Later that week, walking down the hill to the house, I saw a large delivery truck in the driveway of the house. I got there in time to see two men with a large dolly taking, what I thought was a very large refrigerator inside. I knew better than to ask my mother any questions, so I waited until my Dad got home from work. He explained that it was a large capacity freezer and that we were buying a half a cow and a pig to put in it. You can probably guess….I was so confused. What in the world was he talking about?

It was about this time when my mothers mental illness became very evident. We always knew things weren’t right, but now we couldn’t deny it anymore. She went crazy, tearing up the house, screaming to the top of her lungs. She stated that there was no way she would eat meat that was delivered, then she ran to the kitchen and tried to push the freezer over. Thankfully she wasn’t strong enough to move it. She then did what she always did and locked herself in the bedroom. I just ran to my room and hid.

The next day, which was Saturday, my mother never came out of her room. My Dad asked me to come out in the yard, and we started planting a vegetable garden. He told me it was easy to grow things here because it rained a lot, we were no longer in the desert. I was fascinated. I couldn’t wait to watch it all grow and to eventually eat it! That afternoon another large truck arrived and two men carted in package after package of wrapped meat. That’s when I finally asked, “Where is the half cow and pig?” I thought my Dad and the two delivery men were going to die from laughter. After they left my Dad explained that you can buy the meat from the farm, and they package it for you. So, all those butcher paper squares contained the cow and pig.

By the end of the summer we had raised all of the vegetables we needed and my Aunt came over and showed me how to can them for future use. We had 4 peach trees in the yard, and she and I picked as much fruit as we could, and we canned those also. It was amazing to me. The best part of this whole experience was, for the next two years, Dad and I didn’t have to make a weekly grocery run. We just had to go pick up a few items that we couldn’t raise or pull out of the freezer. I can still remember how good the food tasted and how much fun I had gardening and canning.

I am a professional genealogist, writer, photographer, wife, mother, and grandma. I have two books available on Amazon.com: Your Family History: Doing It Right the First Time and Planning Your Genealogy Research Trip. You can also connect with me via Facebook or Twitter.

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Gratitude ~ Truly Thankful ~ 52 Ancestors #48

During this time of year that we pause to give thanks, I think it is very fitting that this weeks’ blog should be on Gratitude. We all have a lot to be grateful for, just sometimes we forget to stop and count our blessings and to express gratitude for what we do have.

I am grateful for Genealogy. I wasn’t raised around family since my parents moved us from Missouri to Arizona when I was 11 months old. I lived in Missouri from age 12-14 but because of my mothers mental illness we didn’t get to know many of the relatives. After my mother died in 1999, I had a great desire to know where I came from. And so my journey really began.

Over the last 21 years I have discovered so many amazing things about my ancestors. The most excited thing I have found is actual family! With the onset of social media I have been able to connect with hundreds of relatives. Most are more distant ones but I do have over 150 closer relatives, and only a handful were known to me before this. I have been able to meet a few in person, or talked with them by phone. I have had several who have mailed or emailed me photos and stories about our shared family.


Dad 1939

Mom 1941

Brother 1955


Sister 1986

As of two years ago I am the only living member of my family lines going to me. My Dad died in 1974, my mother who disowned me in 1986, died in 1999, my sister who did the same because of my mothers pressure, died in 2012 and my brother who my mother disowned in 1980, died in 2018. I have always felt disconnected from family because of my mother, however now I have a sense of family because of the blessing of finding so many wonderful cousins. I am full of Gratitude!

I am a professional genealogist, writer, photographer, wife, mother, and grandma. I have two books available on Amazon.com: Your Family History: Doing It Right the First Time and Planning Your Genealogy Research Trip. You can also connect with me via Facebook or Twitter.

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Picture Perfect Saturday #21 ~ Hazel Clara Hughes

I am currently working on my Family Genealogy Group page for Facebook. In doing so I realized I have a tremendous amount of photos. I decided to feature one a week. No, not everyone is “perfect” however, they are to me!

This week I am showcasing my Great Aunt Hazel Clara Hughes (1901-1953). Hazel is my Grandpa Hughes’ first child by his first wife, Clara Braden. Clara died in childbirth with their second child and my Grandma raised Hazel and her brother.

Hazel has a slight smile on her face like she knows a secret. This photo was taken in about 1916, and she is wearing a very stylish dress for those times. I love that this is not your typical posed picture and it was taken in Hughesville, Pettis County, Missouri.

I am a professional genealogist, writer, photographer, wife, mother, and grandma. I have two books available on Amazon.com: Your Family History: Doing It Right the First Time and Planning Your Genealogy Research Trip. You can also connect with me via Facebook or Twitter.

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Picture Perfect Saturday #19 ~ William Ezra Hughes and Sarah Caywood

I am currently working on my Family Genealogy Group page for Facebook. In doing so I realized I have a tremendous amount of photos. I decided to feature one a week. No, not everyone is “perfect” however, they are to me!

This week I am showcasing my paternal 1st cousin 2 times removed, William Ezra Hughes (1854-1952) and Sarah Caywood (1867-1938). This photo was taken on their wedding day on November 30, 1887, in Benton County, Missouri. As you can tell, William is much older than Sarah. He was 33 and she was 19. To me she looks a little scared, and he looks a little too happy. I absolutely love old wedding photos! They went on to have 13 children, 8 sons and 5 daughters.

I am a professional genealogist, writer, photographer, wife, mother, and grandma. I have two books available on Amazon.com: Your Family History: Doing It Right the First Time and Planning Your Genealogy Research Trip. You can also connect with me via Facebook or Twitter.

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Monday’s for Me ~ Early Saturday Mornings

When growing up in Tucson, Arizona I remember I always looked forward to October. I am sure most people will think it is because I was excited to go Trick or Treating at the end of the month, or because our 80 degree fall temperatures were finally arriving. Although I did look forward to these, I was most excited about the early Saturday mornings. With the “cooler” temperatures it was finally safe to venture out into the surrounding desert.

Twice in October my Dad would pack up supplies in the car, and we would leave our house about half an hour before sunrise, and head out of town. We didn’t have to drive too far because we lived just outside the city limits. He would find a secluded spot and park. This time in the morning the desert air was always cool and very clean. As he and my mother would unload the trunk, my sister would find a place to sit and I would scour the area for wood for a fire. Usually by the time I would return with the wood in hand, my Dad was digging a shallow hole. He would then fill the hole with the wood and light it, and we would sit around it enjoying the warmth of it.

After about 20 or so minutes, he would begin to pull out the ingredients he brought to make breakfast. We always had the same thing, bacon, eggs, fried potatoes and toast. There was something about cooking it on an open fire in a cast iron skillet that made it the best breakfast in the world! After we ate, my sister and I would explore the area.

One of my favorite things to do was find an Arroyo and run up and down the slopes. They are usually dry at this time of year so the bottom is always packed with sand. During the monsoon season the excess rain water would rush through them, bringing debris and treasures. I would spend what seemed like hours digging in the sand and finding small toys, colorful rocks and on occasion I even found jewelry. At sometime during this “dig” I would conduct a safety drill. I would be digging and suddenly look up and yell “water!” and I would run as quickly as possible out of the Arroyo. This may sound strange but in the desert when water starts running through a wash it travels at a high rate of speed. Every year we heard about someone either barely escaping the flood of water, or someone being killed by it.

We would end our time there by gathering around the campfire and roasting marshmallows. I always liked mine a golden brown. We would then pack everything up and head home. I don’t have very many “good” memories of my childhood so this one is extra special to me.

I am a professional genealogist, writer, photographer, wife, mother, and grandma. I have two books available on Amazon.com: Your Family History: Doing It Right the First Time and Planning Your Genealogy Research Trip. You can also connect with me via Facebook or Twitter.

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Picture Perfect Saturday #17 ~ Rosie Hayes and Orville Hughes

I am currently working on my Family Genealogy Group page for Facebook. In doing so I realized I have a tremendous amount of photos. I decided to feature one a week. No, not everyone is “perfect” however, they are to me!
This week I am showcasing my Grand Aunt Rosa “Rosie” Hayes and my Uncle Charles Orville Hughes. Aunt Rosie is my Grandmother, Virginia Bell (Hayes) Hughes’, youngest sibling. There is a 21-year difference in their ages. Orville is the firstborn child of my Grandmother, and he is only 4 years younger than his Aunt! So, they were raised more like siblings and friends, then Aunt and Nephew.

Aunt Rosie was a very adventurous woman. She loved the outdoors and riding horses. She played baseball with the boys and it is said she could run faster than any of them. After graduating, Rosie became a nurse and she loved caring for people. She never got married nor had any children of her own. Instead, she poured all her love into her large extended family.

Orville grew up to be a farmer. He got married when he was 23 years old, and they had 3 children, one son and two daughters, The firstborn, a daughter, is the only one that lived to adulthood. Aunt Rosie was there, taking care of the family throughout this difficult time.

I absolutely love this photo. It shows the close relationship that they shared. Aunt Rosie’s hat shows her fashion sense and the fact that she is riding sidesaddle shows she was attempting to be a proper lady. Orville’s face shows that he is not happy about having his picture taken! I also love the 2 carriages in the background. This photo was taken around 1914 at the Hughes Family farm outside Lexington, Lafayette County, Missouri.
I am a professional genealogist, writer, photographer, wife, mother, and grandma. I have two books available on Amazon.com: Your Family History: Doing It Right the First Time and Planning Your Genealogy Research Trip. You can also connect with me via Facebook or Twitter.

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Sunday’s Salute ~ Norman Miles Sims ~ Lost at Sea ~ World War II

Norman SimsNorman Miles Sims, my 3rd Cousin, was born on March 22, 1917, in Vancouver, Clark County, Washington. He is the youngest son of Melfred Carl Sims (1885-1922) and Dollie Irene Simcosky (1888-1970). Normans’ father died when he was 5 years old. Norman played football and basketball at R.A. Long High School in Longview Washington, having to prove himself for the following reason. He felt he had the shadow of 3 older brothers hanging over him.

 

After High School all three of his older brothers, Franklin, Vinton, and Sims boys USNMilfred “Swede” Jr all joined the Navy. Franklin was a First Class Seaman, Vinton was a Chief Petty Officer and Swede was a Lieutenant in the Medical Service Corps. In 1935, Norman wanted to follow his brothers into the Navy, however, despite him qualifying in all academic and physical fitness tests he was rejected. At 6 feet 4 inches tall, he was ½ inch too tall!

 

Norman Miles Sims WWII newspaper 3This did not deter Norman, and he decided to ask assistance with his enlistment goals. He wrote a letter to President Franklin D. Roosevelt pleading his case. President Roosevelt asked the Navy to give him a special dispensation and let Norman join his 3 brothers in the service of our nation. In 1935, he joined Swede and Franklin on the U.S.S. West Virginia.

 

On December 31, 1941, a few weeks after the attack on Pearl Harbor on Norman Miles Sims WWII letterDecember 7, 1941, Norman was assigned to the U.S.S. Pillsbury. The Pillsbury was sent to the Java Sea. This area was crucial to both sides of the fight and there were many battles that were fought for the territory. On March 1, 1942, during a battle near the Island of Java in the South Pacific, the U.S.S. Pillsbury was fired upon by 4 Japanese battleships. The ship was badly damaged and it sank. Norman and the rest of the crew went down with the ship. The Navy officially declared him dead on November 25, 1945.

 

I am a professional genealogist, writer, photographer, wife, mother, and grandma. I have two books available on Amazon.com: Your Family History: Doing It Right the First Time and Planning Your Genealogy Research Trip. You can also connect with me via Facebook or Twitter.

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Funday Friday ~ #2 ~ Initials

friday_funday_bannerUsually, on Friday’s I post a blog called “Freaky Fridays”. I have published one each week for the last 29 weeks. I have had a lot of fun with it, however, I did notice that lately, they have been getting more negative in the content. So, I decided to try something new. As a change of pace, at least for a while, I will try to make Friday’s Fun.
This week I thought we could try something a little different. While thinking of what might be both fun and informational I thought about using our initials. This week we will find three ancestors whose first name starts with the first initial of your first, middle, and last name. My initials are VJM, so I will write a short paragraph about 3 ancestors, each one’s name will start with one of these initials. I look forward to reading about your three ancestors.

 

 
Vivian Gould 1930V– Vivian Elizabeth Gould is my 3rd cousin. She was born on November 5, 1912, in Oregon. She is the daughter of Cora Ida Simcosky and Edwin Reuben Gould Sr. Her family moved to Parsons, Kansas in 1920. She married William Howard Breckenridge on June 13, 1937, in Louisburg, Kansas. Vivian had 3 sisters and 1 brother and they were a close family. I have over 50 photographs of Vivian, her parents, Grandparents, Aunts and Uncles, her husband, and her children. Many of the photos are large group ones. Vivian died in 1965, in Louisburg at the age of 53.

 

J– Jane Ann Hardin is my 3rd Great Grandmother. She was born in Jane HardinKnox Creek, Tryon County, North Carolina in 1764. She is the fifth of fifteen children born to Colonel Joseph Hardin (1734-1801) and Jane Gibson (1742-1817). She married Alexander Goodin (1762-1844) in 1784 in Knoxville, Hardin County, Tennessee. They had 10 children, 4 sons, and 6 daughters. In 1817, she moved with her husband and family to Saline County, Missouri. Jane died in 1832, in Saline County at the age of 68.

 

Harriett Ellen Hughes 1905H- Henrietta Ellen Hughes is my Great Aunt. She was born on April 1. 1872, in Cole Camp. Benton County, Missouri. She is the last of 11 children born to James Monroe Hughes (1829-1876) and Martha Ann Ogan (1828-1913). At the age of 16, in 1888, she married William Lincoln Chism (1863-1909) and they had one daughter, William died in 1909 and Henrietta married Wesley Clark (1863-?) on December 25, 1911, in Clinton, Henry County, Missouri. They never had any children. It is said that she married 2 more times but no marriage certificates have been found to verify this. She died on January 14, 1962, in Clinton at the age of 89.

 

I am a professional genealogist, writer, photographer, wife, mother, and grandma. I have two books available on Amazon.com: Your Family History: Doing It Right the First Time and Planning Your Genealogy Research Trip. You can also connect with me via Facebook or Twitter.

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Funday Friday #1 ~ How About You?

friday_funday_bannerUsually, on Fridays, I post a blog called “Freaky Fridays”. I have published one each week for the last 29 weeks. I have had a lot of fun with it, however, I did notice that lately, they have been getting more negative in the content. So, I decided to try something new. As a change of pace, at least for a while, I will try to make Friday’s Fun

I try to do Genealogy research on a daily basis. Some days feel like I am pounding my head against the table. Other days, I feel like I have hit the jackpot! However, most days it is business as usual. I want to ask you a question. What is your most favorite discovery or encounter you have had while doing research or writing a blog?

I have had a lot of fascinating discoveries over the years, too many toLeola & Orville pick just one. I have, however, only had one encounter that really surprised and blessed me! A little over 4 years ago I checked my email and I had received a message from a woman who had found me on WikiTree. She told me that she had been shopping in an antique mall in San Jose, California, and found a photo of two young children, a young girl, and her younger brother. She said she bought the photo because the two were just too cute! On the back of it was written “Charlie and Jennie Hughes’ children, Leola and Leonard” and the picture was taken circa 1914 in Pettis County, Missouri. She did a search for those names and up came my tree. She was able to not only contact me, but she sent me a copy of the photo. To say I was grateful, surprised, and amazed is an understatement. My Aunt Leola died at age 32 and there aren’t a lot of photos of her. She even mailed the original to me.

I look forward to reading about your discoveries!

 

I am a professional genealogist, writer, photographer, wife, mother, and grandma. I have two books available on Amazon.com: Your Family History: Doing It Right the First Time and Planning Your Genealogy Research Trip. You can also connect with me via Facebook or Twitter.

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My Ancestors Signature #24 ~ Charles “Charley” Hughes

signatureHow many of you have searched for any kind of photo of an Ancestor and you weren’t able to find one? Especially for one who lived before photography was invented? Have you ever looked through documents like wills, or marriage licenses and you discover that your 3x Great Grandpa had signed it? This signature is a little piece of him that was left behind. By posting it online we can preserve it for future generations.

 

 

My Grandfather

farmer-silhouette

 

Charles “Charley” Hughes
1865-1944

From Death Certificate of Son, November 13, 1923

 

 

I am a professional genealogist, writer, photographer, wife, mother, and grandma. I have two books available on Amazon.com: Your Family History: Doing It Right the First Time and Planning Your Genealogy Research Trip. You can also connect with me via Facebook or Twitter.

 

 

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